But all these arguments are, unfortunately, often do not apply to those who are in love. They say, "I'm still just be happy with it, so I do not care what God says and the Church." Talking so can not, of course, be considered as Orthodox Christian. But she has something to say to us. After all, in Baptism, it still belongs to the Church, and until his death secret links connect it to the body of Christ. Is both an honor and a responsibility. Anyone who has entered into a covenant with God, even as a child, can never become like those who originally alien to the Creator. The prodigal son - yet son. God said, "Let there be among you a man who heard the words of this curse, bless himself in his heart, saying:" I will be happy, despite the fact that I walk in the stubbornness of my heart ... " LORD will not spare him, but then kindled the anger of the Lord and His wrath against that man, and fall upon him all the curses, and the LORD shall blot out his name from under heaven: and the Lord will separate him to perish "(Deuteronomy 29:20-21) .
But from the point of view of practical, such a marriage is for a man brought up in the Christian tradition, is sure to be unhappy. After treatment of women in Islam is unbearable for those brought up on the idea of love between husband and wife as a normal married life. For those who do not believe, is worth quoting Islamic norms relationship with his wife, who will perform in the unfortunate event that she wants to break the word of God. So, from the point of view of Islam, "a woman must listen to her husband and give him absolute obedience, except when it is forbidden by Islam requires." A woman comes into her husband's family. Without his permission, it can not be away from home, as well as to engage in professional activities.
Spouse has the right to visit their parents and close relatives, although her husband can deny meet with her children from a previous marriage. In some Muslim countries, the husband can reduce a meeting with the parents of his wife to one per week. The wife has the right to refuse marital relations with her husband only if he has not made a marriage contract-agreed share of the dowry, or in the period of fasting. Unreasonable refusal of his wife lead to its "suspension", ie divorce. This will end for her and the use of contraceptives. The holy book of Muslims, the Qur'an urges husbands to punish their wives in case of disobedience, disagreement, or simply to improve the character. The Quran says that "God has exalted men on their merits against women, and in addition pay a marriage dowry to their husbands .... Scold them, bully, when you do not listen ... - beat them. If the wife obedient, be lenient to them "(Koran 4.38, 4, 34). Muslim theologian al-Ghazali calls marriage "a kind of slavery for women. Her life becomes complete obedience to her husband in all things, if it does not transgress the laws of Islam. " Education of children - the exclusive right of the husband. Even if the wife belongs to one of the "religion of revelation" that is, if a Jew or a Christian. Raising children in heterodoxy is prohibited by Islamic law. "
We add something about the treatment of women in Islam. "According to a hadith - the dictum of" prophet "- the majority of women will be in hell. If you believe Ibn 'Umar, "the prophet said about meeting women! Give alms, to ask for more forgiveness, for I have seen that most of the inhabitants of the fire - it's you. And the one woman among them said: Why are most of the inhabitants of the fire - are we? He said a lot of cursing and you are ungrateful to their husbands. I've never seen someone in mind it would have more disadvantages in faith and mind than you "(Muslim, 1879). According to another hadith, "the prophet said, I did not leave behind a temptation more harmful to men than women" (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
According to Sharia, "the testimony of two women in court is the equivalent of one man. Women are also not allowed to follow the funeral procession. Muslim man has the right to marry inoverke, but a Muslim to marry a Gentile can not. "
But here also worth noting that by marrying a Muslim wife in any case should not expect it to adultery. After all, he has the right to have up to four wives, and to enter into so-called "Temporary marriage" for a period of 1 hour to year (often justified prostitution). If the Russian government laws and prohibit polygamy, in practice it has always existed.
So, dear ladies, entering into an Islamic marriage, you have to be prepared for the fact that you will be treated like animals, and to changes that are not even considered as such, and beaten by her husband, sanctioned by the Koran. (For Muslim men, even in Europe, Islamic theologians produced a special book for the correct method of wife-beating, so that not too much to mutilate your body, so that they could continue to use it and it does not get hit by a secular court). If you like it all - please! Do not tell me that my boyfriend would never do so, because he is good. Aside from your roommate (my husband called it does not allow me the word of God), there is his family, which he is obliged to obey, whether he likes it or not. A little later, we present evidence that a woman waits in reality, if it falls into the modern Islamic family. But first, let's finish and that you do not need to rely on a long and happy life of a stable family. After all, according to the rules of Islam a husband can easily divorce his wife. This may be a valid divorce (myuborot) at the request of her husband, with reasons, or joint decision of husband and wife, and maybe just a divorce at the request of her husband without explanation in a simplified form (talaq), after giving them a set of phrases: "You excommunicated" or "Connect to the family."
In the case of divorce, the husband must allocate the necessary property to his wife, "according to custom." A divorced woman for three months left in the house of her ex-husband, to determine whether she is pregnant. In the case of childbirth, it should be left in the house of his father. The woman can seek divorce only through court, referring only to the well-defined reasons: if the husband has a disability, does not perform marital duties, abused his wife or does not allocate funds for its maintenance.
Moreover, if the spouse suddenly want to be reunited, that in Islam there is a monstrous decree that for this it is necessary first wife to marry another man to divorce him, and only after that to continue, "If he had given her a divorce, it is not allowed it to him after, as long as it does not come out for another man, and if he gave her a divorce, there is no blame on them, that they will return "(Qur'an 2.230)....